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What Makes You Likeable?
Everyone wants to be likeable. In business and in life, likeable people not only are more popular, but they also often are more effective at managing and getting things done. According to Forbes.com, these are things you should do if you want to be more likeable.
Balance passion and fun. Being passionate about something can make you more likeable, because the energy and drive that come from caring deeply about things is attractive. But if you are obsessed with whatever makes you passionate, that can be off-putting. Likeable people care deeply but also know how to have fun.
Know how to use touch. Touching someone’s shoulder or a friendly handshake can make people feel connected to you. However, likeable people also understand how to use touch that is appropriate for the person and the situation.
Know when to be open. Sharing too many details about your life can be annoying or make other people uncomfortable. But never sharing personal details can come across as cold or uncaring. Likeable people take their cue about being open from the people they are with.
Smile. Smiling makes people feel good, and it puts them at ease. Likeable people have a natural tendency to smile in a genuine manner.
Use people’s names. When you address someone by their name, it makes them feel as if they matter to you. That makes them feel good and feel positive toward you.
Make a good first impression. Most people form a first impression within the first several seconds of meeting someone. When you meet someone, smile, offer a firm handshake and look them in the eye.
Understand body language. Speak in a friendly and enthusiastic tone, lean toward the person, keep eye contact, smile and avoid defensive postures such as crossed arms.
Be consistent. Everyone has good days and bad. But don’t let your mood influence how you interact with people. Treat people the same, regardless of who the person is or what kind of day you are having.
Don’t look for attention. Don’t try to hog the spotlight or take all the credit. Be generous in including others and in spreading around the credit for successes.
Stay off your phone. Be present for conversations and interactions. You can check your email later.
Be genuine. Likeable people are happy with who they are, and they don’t try to be someone they are not.
Be open-minded. Don’t be quick to turn down an idea or decide someone is wrong. Try to understand why other people think or act the way they do. You don’t have to agree, but you should make an effort to put yourself in their shoes.
Ask questions. Everyone likes to be asked about their thoughts, so ask – and then listen to the answers. Don’t forget about follow-up questions, which indicate that you have been paying attention.