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A New Look at Gratitude
By David Miller
Sometimes, November can seem like the grayest and most dismal month of the year. The days are short; we get up in the dark and come home in the dark. Isn’t it curious that this dark, damp, and dreary time of year is the time we are most reminded to be thankful?
In the dim days of winter, surrounded by all the holiday hustle and bustle, it is easy to feel out of sync with the merriment, and gratitude may seem elusive. As the world around us hurriedly spins in the wake of the season’s commotion, we can get dragged in, drowning in the sea of holiday madness and losing sight of what this time of year is truly about.
Denis Waitley, a motivational speaker and author, says: “Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” But how do you engage in that spiritual experience? You can begin with what consumes your thoughts. If you intentionally set out to live the life Waitley describes above, you will soon realize the benefits.
This holiday season, I do not recommend that you practice being grateful. Instead, I quietly suggest an admonition to be, simply, awake. Because when you are awake to the sounds and the smells of the current moment, gratitude happens by itself. It is the rushing by that leaves us without gratitude. The single greatest enemy to spiritual practice is hurrying. Gratitude happens when we focus on the now. When we hurry, we become preoccupied by our thoughts and we miss the world around us. On the other hand, when we allow ourselves to be fully in the present moment, to the smell of morning or the rustling of leaves, gratitude seems to take care of itself.
Feelings of security are also influential as a catalyst to being grateful. When one’s mind is at ease, when one is feeling cared for and protected, it is easier to appreciate the present moment. Without the worries of “what ifs” and agonizing about the future, one experiences the contentment of being exactly where they are.
All of us at The Bensman Group are here to provide you with the security that will allow you the freedom to enjoy this holiday season. We want to provide you with the peace of mind that precedes gratitude, knowing that we have played our role in helping you manage some of life's more significant risks.
So all you will need to do is attend to the present moment and gratitude cannot help but follow.
All the best,
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